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How Your Mood Affects Your Decisions

This morning I was brushing my teeth before work and I glanced down and noticed the simple yet profound message on the inside of my black shirt (the bottom of the shirt was flipped over). The message reads, “be your best self” in thin white letters.

I bought the shirt a couple years ago and whenever I wear it (and happen to see the message), I always stop and connect with the words.

To me, your “best self” (or “highest self” as I like to call it) is where your truth lives. It’s the core of your essence. It’s where inner wisdom is found. Something we all have.

This morning I read the message and it instantly took me out of my head and into my heart. I love when that happens. It’s like little angels suddenly start flying all around you.

But you don’t have to wait for a motivational message to appear before you react. Instead, there are things you can proactively do to get out of your head and access your best self in this very moment.

And your best self is the part of you that’s already perfectly organized. Always has been, always will be…

Your best self already has the answers to all of your organizing challenges. Sometimes we just need to be still and listen.

Here’s one of my favorite techniques for tapping into your highest self that I learned from Tony Robbins:

Start by finding a somewhat quiet spot (yesterday I did this on a bench outside with people around – it wasn’t totally quiet but it still worked). You can do this standing or sitting. Place your hand on your heart and listen to each breath you take. Feel your heart beat in and then out. Repeat. And repeat.

Do this for as long as you’d like. Sometimes I do this for just one minute and other times I do it for 10. It depends on how much time you can make available.

But as soon as you do it, assuming you’re fully present in the moment, you get the feeling of being home. The feeling of being connected to your truth. The truth of who you are at your core when you remove your personality, your job title, your bank account, your physical belongings/attachments, and any other external forms, labels, and conditioning.

Every time I do this, I say hello to my heartbeat again and send it a massive dose of gratitude for working so hard. It’s been with me for 33 years yet I’ve spent most of my life unconscious of it.

There are other ways to intensify the experience, but just doing the above steps can allow you to access your best self. If you try this and it doesn’t work, that’s okay. Try it again another time. It takes practice to fully tune in.

Now, here’s how this relates to getting organized:

Is there a question you need answered or a decision you’re trying to make about decluttering and getting organized? Maybe you can’t decide what to keep or what to let go of, or maybe you can’t decide how to organize a space.

Whatever it may be, tap into your best self, ask yourself the presenting question, and listen for the answers within. Because, the decisions you make depend on the mood you’re in…

For example, bad moods lead to not-so-great decisions. Likewise, great moods lead to better decisions. And the best decisions are made when we’re connected to our best selves!

The person who declutters their home unconsciously out of built-up anger, resentment, and frustration from crap that has piled up for years will make totally different decisions from the person who consciously declutters their home of the same piles of stuff but does so in a calm and loving demeanor. We’re either reactive or proactive.

If I was sitting next to you helping you organize your space, I wouldn’t tell you what to do. I would ask you questions, offer you a different perspective, and guide you in the direction of your own truth. I believe all the answers are already inside each of us. We just need to find them.

If there’s a decision you’re struggling with when it comes to letting go of something or getting organized, try this technique to tap into your best self and then ask yourself the question you want answered.

I hope you’ll try this. It’s a free and easy technique available to each of us as long as we’re alive.

Sending love,

If you know anyone that’s frustrated with their clutter, please consider sharing this article. Sometimes a small tidbit of information can have a big impact on a person.


    Alejandra Costello
  • About Alejandra

  • Since 2008, organizing expert & certified life coach, Alejandra Costello has taught thousands of students in 132 countries how to get organized through her video-based training programs. Her YouTube videos have been viewed 100+ million times. Named 1 of the 5 most organized people in America by HGTV and "The Decluttering Queen" by Good Morning America, Alejandra's expertise has been featured in The New York Times, Oprah.com, The Washington Post, The Wall Street Journal, Good Housekeeping, Family Circle, Woman's Day, Parents Magazine, and CBS. You can read more about Alejandra here or see our Press page here.


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